Although Jacob and I have been married for almost a year and a half I still consider us newlyweds. I figure this title will no longer apply to us once we have kids or our siblings get married. But we have a few years before we have to worry about that.
Jacob and I are currently in this semi-awkward stage of working full time, while taking night classes. We have general ideas of what we want to get our degrees in. Well Jacob does, I change my mind on a near-daily basis. We rent a townhouse that was built in 1984, with 5 different types of flooring throughout. Yep, you read that right, 5. In fact not much in this place has been updated since it was built. Jacob’s car is about half-dead and we don’t really make enough right now to save. Our life is like this double-edged sword, where everything I listed above is both fantastic and crappy at the same time.
I’ll be the first to admit that I am guilty of often falling prey to what I like to call the social media affect. People often tend to post the amazing things in their lives- which is great! We should appreciate and share the good. The problem is that I have a tendency to compare my life with everyone else’s. When I do this I become dissatisfied with what I have. Theodore Roosevelt said ” Comparison is the thief of Joy.” I’ve noticed that when I’m constantly comparing myself or my life to others I find less joy in what I’ve been given. I would love to be graduating college right now, traveling around Europe or buying a house like many of my friends and their spouses. But Jacob and I just aren’t there yet and I can’t compare our lives with anyone else. I’ve learned that comparing myself to others is useless because everyone’s situation is different; we’ve been given different trials, different paths for a reason. I know that one day Jacob and I will graduate, travel, and buy a house and do whatever we want. It’s just not our time YET.
While I hate that we never have any money, and every fiber of my being wants to do a remodel on our rental, I love that it is ours. I love that we are able to figure life out and make decisions together. I love that I have my best friend by my side to help me navigate life. Jacob has been by my side as I’ve experienced some of life’s most painful moments such as my brothers passing and my parents’ divorce but I love that we’ve also been able to celebrate together sweet things in life like graduations, completed missions and special vacations. I love that we still have so many exciting things to look forward to together. I’m grateful that we get to be poor newly wedded college students together. Even though there are days that I hate every minute of it, I wouldn’t change it or who I get to experience it all with. So here’s to creating the life you want, while loving the life you live.
[ I had every intention of posting some cute little picture of the two of us happy together in our little townhouse. But let’s face it, while we are happy we are also dead tired from work and school more often than not. Jacob was out before I could make him take pictures with me.]